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June11

I am known to be a bit of a worrier – i admit it! Its not one of my best traits but it is something i am aware of and consistently try to combat it.

Worrying, I believe is simply fear of what may or may not happen and it is a proven fact that 90% of the things we fear don’t actually happen! So why do we bother?

Well there are so many unknowns to us humans and we cant begin to fathom the uncertainties before us. These uncertainties make us uncomfortable so we begin to fear what may or may not happen.

For instance, when i am in the ocean having a swim by myself i often fear that i will be eaten alive by a shark. I have a pretty vivid imagination and its not long before i start visualizing two rows of razor sharp teeth in my face as i pop up from under a wave. Its not long before i start making my way back to dry land.

The funny thing is you are about 15000 times more likely to be in a car accident than becoming a shark’s dinner. Yet every day we jump in the car without a thought as to what may happen on the road.

So how do we move through this unjustified fear. Well in my experience i use this method:

Whenever i am fearful of taking the next step or moving into an uncomforatble experience, i take a deep breath and say “put the thoughts in my head and the words in my mouth” This immediately takes away the fear and helps me to relax into the situation.

I am trusting the universe and just allowing things to happen as they should. I cant change them so why force nature? Everything is perfect as it is and there is a positive reason for everything that happens.

So next time you are putting off the inevitable, just trust that everything will be as it should be.

Try it next time you are in bed about to fall asleep; take a deep breath and ask for the answer to a question you are searching for and then trust that you will come up with it.

Just trust šŸ™‚

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Who Inspires You?

June5

My late Grandma used to say, show me your friends and the people you hang around with and i will show you who you are. At the time it didn’t make a lot of sense to me as a 14 year old lad but these days that saying is clear as a bell.

The people you associate with is a massive factor in all that you do. Thats why its so important to be with like minded people that inspire, challenge and motivate you.

If you are not striving to succeed at a higher level than you are now then that is where you will stay… and that’s ok if that is where you want to be. For most people though, deep down, we all want to be better at what we do, we want to advanceĀ  and grow otherwise life can get stagnant and boring.

Someone that i have always looked up to is my late Grandfather, affectionately known in our family as Pupaye.Ā  Pupaye died many years ago when i was in my teens but i still remember the things he said to me and the older i get the more meaning those things have to me.

Pupaye was a wise, experienced, selfless family man with an unwavering self belief. He was an engineer, a toolmaker and would always be building things with his hands or creating better systems to simplify a task. His hands were strong yet delicate, he had wrinkles near his eyes from smiling and would whistle while he worked, with a permanent grin on his face.

If i ever struggle with something i know i can always think of him and ask for a bit of guidance and sure enough the thoughts come into my head and the words put in my mouth. Its very comforting to know he is there.

We all look up to someone in life; whether its a big brother, our parents, a sportsperson, an ex-president… anyone!

Who inspires you?

Here is an old picture of my Pupaye in his engineering days. You can see the permanent grin on his face even then!

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Miracle In The Making

May27

We just had the 19 week scan of Marisa’s tummy and wow what a spin out!

Technology is an amazing thing – it gets into every single industry so we can all benefit. To slop a bit of goo on your skin and run what looks like a barcode scanner over your tummy so that you can see a living breathing human inside is pretty awesome.

The thing that amazed me most was the development of the baby’s spine… it was perfect. Seeing every vertebrae magically interlocking into each other was phenomenal.

The 4 chambers of the heart pulsing away beautifully, both sides of the brain forming exactly as it should, every finger and toe in perfect alignment.Ā  Sometimes i feel pretty chuffed with myself when i manage to change the oil in my car but seeing this little miracle transforming into a little person just blows me away.

We are over the half way mark now and just cant wait to meet our new member of the family, picking names is the next big task to think about.

Its a pretty special time right now and we are enjoying every minute. A friend of mine gave me some nice advice today since his baby daughter was born not long ago… he said, “dont listen to any of the negative stuff people say: things like, you dont get any sleep once the baby is bornĀ  and your life changes forever and say goodbye to those quiet nights at home. Ignore that stuff because what I have found is the bad stuff is half of what I expected and the good stuff is ten times better than I expected”

Bring on the good times!

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Can You Feel It Kicking?

May8

Today i want to share with you a moment my wife, Marisa and I and our unborn child had last night.

It was late in the evening and Marisa was already in bed and I jumped in to join her; as i lay down I brushed my foot against hers and she threw the covers back and said, “I can feel something!” Feeling exhausted from the day i simply said, “That’s my foot”.

She said again, “No i can feel something!”

At this point i thought there was a snake in the bed and I repeated, “I know, its my foot on your foot!” Marisa grabbed my hand and put it on her belly and said, “Its the baby!”

Feeling pretty stupid but excited i sat up in bed and looked at her belly in anticipation; we waited for it to happen again. I put my head on her belly listening for something and trying to communicate hoping we would get a response.

Again Marisa had a little tap tap on her belly! I couldnt actually feel it because she has just gone 17 weeks so its very small but it was amazing to have the first sign of life. It was like the baby was introducing itself to us for the first time.

We took photos and made notes in the diary so we could remember what happened the first time our baby made a physical connection with us, it was pretty special.

Being aĀ  male I don’t get to experience the whole pregnancy physically and because of this its easy to forget what is actually happening in Marisa’s tummy. Every day she wakes up and puts her hand on her belly knowing that a little person is growing inside her. For me, its not so obvious so when a physical movement presents itself it brings it all into reality.

Marisa has been really sick for the whole 17 weeks and the morning after the kicking from the baby, she woke up feeling great! She didn’t feel nauseous anymore and the fatigue seemed to have disappeared, just like that.

It was as if the baby woke up and said, “Oh hi guys, i just worked out what’s happening in here, i am a human growing in your belly so you don’t have to be sick anymore…. its all good, see you in 5 months”

Going through this experience for the first time brings up an array of emotions and they come up without notice. Joy at what is coming into our lives, fear that everything is going to be ok, anticipation for what to expect, love for each other and the gift we are being given, worry that we will be able to cope.

In the end i think it all comes down to trust. Trust in each other that we will be awesome parents and that the universe will make everything as it should be.

Its a good feeling when you take away all the fear of the unknown and just go with the flow and enjoy the ride. Life is a gift, a gift to be treasured, especially when we are given the gift of another life.

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The ANZAC Legacy

April30

We just finished our ANZAC day long weekend here in Australia. The 25th April marks the day Australian and New Zealand troops landed on Gallipoli. In Australia, its a time of remembrance, a time for us all to be grateful for the sacrifices made by service men and women that fought for us at war.

I have never understood the concept of war. However I have always respected and felt a sense of pride whenever i saw the diggers march down the main street every year to bring awareness and help usĀ  commemorate and reflect on the many different meanings of war.

We live in a pretty lucky country and its easy to forget how lucky we really are. There are no bullets flying over our head, we have no starvation and everyone can generally live a “good” life.

The problem with a good life is that we can become complacent. Having a good life handed to you can often lead to taking what you have for granted, which is why i am a big believer in consistently asking yourself the question, “what am I grateful for today?”

A wise person once told me that a good life can often be the enemy of a great life. With a good life we are happy enough to go along with whatever happens, taking things as they come and not necessarily taking any steps to improving our situation.

The truth is you can have so much more in life – you can have a great life! Its my belief that we should be striving for a great life because we have been given the gift of life in the first place. I would go so far as to say that it is our obligation to search for our special gifts that we have been given so that we can share them with the world.

By personally developing yourself you become acutely aware of what your purpose is in life and your purpose, i believe is the gift you leave behind, its your contribution to making the world a better place.

Watching the ANZAC parade last weekend i began to realise the legacy these people had left behind. Its not something they chose but they have the honour of bestowing their gift on all of us.

Choose to strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be and know that you can have a great life!

I found this music video by a classic Australian band, Redgum. Singer songwriter, John Schumann manages to capture the spirit of the ANZAC with hisĀ  stirring lyrics in “I was only 19” . Have a listen and while you watch the images have a think about what you want to do with your life and what legacy you would leave behind

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAwvH8FbdjM[/youtube]

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Do You Have A Birds Eye View Of Your Life?

April24

Have you ever been to a football game and watched what happens at half time? In most sports, the team gathers around in a circle and the coach stands in the middle motivating the team for the next half. The coach has the birds eye view perspective over the game and can provide critical input on what is happening in the match –Ā  specifically pointing out what went wrong and what needs to be achieved to overcome the other team.

Its fascinating to watch the transformation in the team after the coach has passed on their words of wisdom and motivation.

Now transfer this method of thinking to your own life. Have you got someone overlooking your life path and commenting on what can be done to improve your game?

Its called having a life coach. The term has been around for a while now and up until about 18 months ago i thought it was just a hyped up business model designed for high end corporate executives to power up their efficiencies in their work life.

They say when the student is ready, the teacher appears and this was certainly the case with me. Like a lot of people i had a lot of emotional struggles and was finding it hard to see the forest from the trees.

I decided to explore the opportunity of having a life coach. Like most things as soon as i started looking, i was provided with the answer.

An amazing person came into my life by the name of Jill Mcintyre. Jill is one of those people that has discovered their purpose in life. She has a genuine gift in being able to help others succeed in everything they do by having the birds eye perspective. Jill is able to peel back the onion and explore every layer in your life and help you discover and define your habits, traits and why you live your life the way you do.

For me it meant taking control of my life again and pointing it in the direction i wanted it to travel. Just being aware of where our beliefs come from and having the tools and understanding to be able to change the way we think is incredibly empowering.

We all have fears and reservations about many things in life; it takes courage and determination to be able to address and explore those fears and by doing so you are opening yourself up to a wealth of opportunities.

I don’t usually promote others on this blog but i feel it would be doing a disservice by not sharing this person’s wonderful talents with others. Having Jill in my life has brought about some incredible changes in the way i think, the way i do and the results i have been achieving.

Having someone over my shoulder encouraging me, supporting me and guiding me gives me the edge in everything i do. Every time i speak with Jill its like the half time break at a footy match. She has a birds eye view and just at the right time i get the perspective i need to help me soar like an eagle.

Its important that we all strive to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. To do this requires the support of others . Life is not a dress rehearsal so make the most with the time you have by utilizing the tools and resources that come into your life.

If you would like a free personality profile done by Jill, click on this link and explore the possibilities! Personality Profile

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A New Addition

April16

Last week’s blogpost was all about the importance of family and how precious our loved ones are to us and how frightening it is when we experience the possibility of losing one. Well this week its the flip side…. this week i get to tell you about an addition to our family!

Yep my lovely wife is 14 weeks pregnant and we will be granted the gift of a new member in our family in October!

Its our first so we have some pretty special times ahead and i cant wait to experience them. So don’t be surprised if my blogs start taking a twist revealing some insights to my experiences in becoming a Dad. I am sure there will be plenty of lessons to be learned and i look forward to sharing them with you.

Lesson one has just been to enjoy the moment and start to take it all in. We have known for a couple of months now but i still wake up in the morning and feel enormous gratitude and am in constant awe at what we are creating together.

It really brings home what is importantĀ  and forced me to look at how i prioritise my life. Everything slips away into insignificance when you have something of this magnitude come into your life. In the end, nothing else matters so it really feels good to have this perspective on what is important.

What is important in your life? What is it that makes you get up in the morning and keep you focused on only the things that are special in your life?

This scan is from 11 and a half weeks and we have nicknamed the baby LBD for now which stands for Little Break Dancer. The moves it was pulling off in this scan were amazing! Must have got its Mum’s dancing skills šŸ™‚

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Is Fear Producing Your Reality?

April9

Following on from last weeks post, surrounding yourself with a stadium of supporters i thought i would share an experience i had yesterday that really rammed home how important not just our supporters are but how important the ones closest to us are as well.

Have you ever lost your child in a shopping centre or even lost sight of them for a split second in a crowded area?

Yesterday we were having a lovely day enjoying a bbq out the back of Mum’s house by the river. It was dark and we all had a few drinks and really enjoying the spirit of the night.

Everything changed in an instant though when someone noticed Luke, our youngest member of the clan was missing. Luke is 2 and a half years old and just at the age of wanting to explore everything in sight.

His Mum just popped up the shops briefly and entrusted us to keep an eye on him while she was gone. It only took a few minutes of conversation before we had the realisation he was gone and we all feared the worst.

Everyone swung in to action mode, grabbing torches, running around the complex, knocking on doors, calling out Luke’s name. It was a sickly feeling walking along the river bank with a torch, fearing the worst and hoping he was somehow asleep in his bed upstairs.

It was a good 10 minutes before we got the phone call that little Luke was actually with his Mum at the shops; she made a last minute decision to take him along with her.

The collective sigh of relief filled the air as we stood there contemplating what could have been. For the past 10 minutes we were in a state of panic – inconsolable until we knew what had happened.

When things calmed down i stepped out and looked back at the situation.

It made me realise how vulnerable we are when we let our fears take over our thoughts. Isn’t it interesting to see how our mind copes with different situations. All of us were white with fear of the possibilities and allowed the myriad of worst case scenarios to control our thoughts. Panic was well and truly set in and we would have done anything to know that our Luke was safe.

Thankfully everything turned out fine but there were a few lessons we all took away that night:

* Treasure your loved ones, they are all that matter in life

* Don’t let your fears overpower your thoughts

* When in a state of panic you are at your least effective

These fears are often nothing more than figments of our imagination; quite simply, our mind is producing the chemicals in our bodies to deal with any given situation.

Fear is a primal emotion and has its place in our lives. Its important though, to keep things in context when fear sets in. I often ask myself a question when i am feeling a superficial fear that is holding me back from stepping outside my comfort zone. I simply ask, “Am i safe?” This brings home what is real in my life right now. The answer is always yes and that thought patten ensures my perception of the event does not become my reality.

Put simply my fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.

Have you had an experience where your mind produced so much fear you could not thinkĀ  straight? I would love to hear your story.

Cheers,

Matt

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Surround Yourself With A Stadium Of Supporters

April2

Woohoo! Its footy season here in Australia now and our national game for those that have never experienced it is Australian Rules Football. I am a mad Brisbane Lions supporter and this weekend i was lucky enough to attend a game in our Queensland capital, Brisbane.

We had second row seats and were entertained for two and a half hours where the game went back and forth all night. There were some tense moments where we were all on the edge of our seat, willing our beloved Lions to succeed. The boys played brilliantly and thankfully it was enough to give us the win.

So why is Aussie Rules footy my topic today? Well as i was sitting there watching the game last night i had a perfect perspective of the entire match. I was in the thick of the boisterous and noisy crowd yet close enough to sense the feeling of the players i was watching. When the Lions dropped off in intensity, the crowd would go quiet and that anticipation spilled over to the players and i could see them start to make errors and lose a little confidence.

On the flip side, whenever we kicked a goal, the crowd would go wild and 36000 people would be on their feet cheering the boys along. I could see the shift in spirit the team was having whenever the crowd got behind them. Their spirits would soar and their confidence grew as the energy of the crowd willed them to win with their passionate voices.

It was an amazing experience being a part of that energy that lifted the team; the chanting, the shouting, the flag waving all contributed to the team’s win at the end of the day.

It made me realise how important it is to have people around us that support what we are doing. Whether we like it or not, the people we hang around with will influence the life we lead so we all need to make a purposeful decision to choose who we allow into our lives.

Having positive, supportive people around us will lift us to a higher standard and make us accountable and confident in the decisions we make. This is especially important when we step outside the usual expectations of society. Its unfortunate but people will sometimes strive to hold you down so that their life is not threatened or affected.

So when you decide to take on something new or decide you want a change in your life, back yourself and surround yourself with people that will back you also. Attracting like-minded people into your life is the first step to achieving your dreams and goals. Life wasn’t meant to be a solo affair and as they say it gets pretty lonely at the top so surround yourself with fun, positive, supportive peopleĀ  and you will be kicking goals in no time!

Check out the Lions captain, Jonathon Brown getting the crowd inspired… Go the Lions!!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGW9yAG6eCU[/youtube]

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Do Your Beliefs Serve You Anymore?

March25

“Give me a lever long enough and i will shall move the world” Archimedes

One of my weaknesses is the fact that i am a hard worker. Weakness you say? Isn’t that a good thing? Well its great to have a good work ethic and work hard to achieve your goals but its another thing to work smart. Working smart means making the best use of your time through leverage. Leverage of your time, leverage of your money and leverage of your skill and expertise.

I am a full time property investor and part of that entails renovating houses. This weekĀ  i spent a lot of my time demolishing walls, tiling floors and running cable…. that sort of thing.

I was in there pulling out nails from the existing beams in the house and suddenly realised how poorly i was using my time. Although i love working with my hands, carpentry is not my expertise so why was i busting my back doing something i could have paid an expert for?

I stopped and had a coffee to think about it and after a little contemplation i realised i was working hard and not smart. You see, beliefs get built into us as children by our parents and teachers – some useful and some not so useful. Working hard is an outdated belief and one that had to change because it just doesn’t serve me anymore.

Changing a belief doesn’t have to be a momentous occasion; its not about blaming whoever instilled the belief in you its just a case of taking responsibility to change it.

So when you come across a habit or a belief system that is not working for you simply take a minute and say something like this to yourself: “Thank you for supporting me with having this belief and it no longer serves me anymore and I am now choosing to move on and live my life without it.” Simple as that.

So i have changed that belief system and have decided that this will be the last time i do any physical work on a renovation. From now on i will be leveraging that portion of the project to one of my team so that i can focus on the things i am good at.

Try it out on some of your old belief systems that you have been carrying around all your life that no longer serve you.

Here is another example: Say you drink too much coffee and you know it is bad to drink more than a few cups a day. Your belief system probably sounds like this, “I cant do anything productive until i have my cup of coffee”.

So if that doesn’t serve you or your body, then change the belief to “I love to drink coffee on occasion and my motivation and enthusiasm comes from my healthy diet and drinking plenty of water”

Coupling a change in belief with a bit of leverage willĀ  really change your lifeĀ  – and all it took was a slight twist in your thinking. I would love to hear from you so let me know something that is not serving you anymore and what you can do to replace that belief

Cheers,

Matt

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findmattjones.com is a blog website aimed at those interested in personally developing themselves to achieve greater financial freedom enabling them to find their true purpose in life. In this blog you will find personal experiences and ideas from Matt and his own quest for financial freedom.

Matt worked in the theatre industry as a lighting technician for over 15 years. Although the work was satisfying and allowed him to explore his creative talents, Matt was ruled by the need to swap his time for money to survive.

In 2005, Matt quit the theatre industry to educate himself in property investing and personal development. Since then has created his own property networking group that has over 200 members and now invests full time in property and internet marketing.

On his journey from paid employee to entrepreneur, Matt has discovered that personally developing himself and creating a winning mindset was critical to achieving any and all of his dreams and goals.

This blog is dedicated to sharing the pathway to those hopes and dreams.