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Just Trust

June11

I am known to be a bit of a worrier – i admit it! Its not one of my best traits but it is something i am aware of and consistently try to combat it.

Worrying, I believe is simply fear of what may or may not happen and it is a proven fact that 90% of the things we fear don’t actually happen! So why do we bother?

Well there are so many unknowns to us humans and we cant begin to fathom the uncertainties before us. These uncertainties make us uncomfortable so we begin to fear what may or may not happen.

For instance, when i am in the ocean having a swim by myself i often fear that i will be eaten alive by a shark. I have a pretty vivid imagination and its not long before i start visualizing two rows of razor sharp teeth in my face as i pop up from under a wave. Its not long before i start making my way back to dry land.

The funny thing is you are about 15000 times more likely to be in a car accident than becoming a shark’s dinner. Yet every day we jump in the car without a thought as to what may happen on the road.

So how do we move through this unjustified fear. Well in my experience i use this method:

Whenever i am fearful of taking the next step or moving into an uncomforatble experience, i take a deep breath and say “put the thoughts in my head and the words in my mouth” This immediately takes away the fear and helps me to relax into the situation.

I am trusting the universe and just allowing things to happen as they should. I cant change them so why force nature? Everything is perfect as it is and there is a positive reason for everything that happens.

So next time you are putting off the inevitable, just trust that everything will be as it should be.

Try it next time you are in bed about to fall asleep; take a deep breath and ask for the answer to a question you are searching for and then trust that you will come up with it.

Just trust 🙂

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5 Comments to

“Just Trust”

  1. Avatar June 11th, 2010 at 10:22 pm Kylie Doak Says:

    Hi Matt

    Fear is a strange emotion, isn’t it? Genuine fear is very unpleasant to experience and while it’s necessary to be fearful in dangerous situations – because our “fight or flight” reaction (adrenaline) kicks in to help us – the majority of our fears are based on fear of the unknown, and as you said, more often than not, most of the things we fear don’t come to fruition!

    Like you, I’m very conscious of the fact that I’m a worrier!

    As I get older, the better I’m becoming at recognising futile worry and anxiousness (over things that I can’t do anything about, which really is a waste of time and energy!), and where my worry is actually helpful and serves a genuine purpose.

    I trust my intuition more than ever these days, and if something simply doesn’t feel right, then I listen to my instincts and what they are telling me.

    There are times when I don’t necessarily know why I feel like I feel, but my experience has always been that when I don’t go with my instincts, I spend more time worrying about the situation/event etc that if I’d gone with my “gut feeling”, and at least 99% of the time, my instincts are right!

    I liken your tip about asking for the thoughts to be put into your head and the words into your mouth, to intuition.

    I laughed when I read your comment about the shark (because I can relate to it!): I don’t particularly like swimming in the sea, the main reason being “there might be a shark lurking around – just because I can’t see it, doesn’t mean it can’t see me!” … that, and I HATE seaweed – eew! It makes me shudder just thinking about it!

    Contrary to this comment you made … “yet every day we jump in the car without a thought as to what may happen on the road” … I DO worry about this every time I drive the car, but not to the point of it being debilitating (well, not any more that is :)).

    I’m a confident and very aware driver, not an anxious one.

    I’m always particularly aware of what I’m doing, what other drivers are doing, and the fact that no matter how long any of us have been driving, we should never take for granted that an accident won’t happen. I’m always grateful to be home safe and sound.

    In this instance, I firmly believe that my “worry” makes me a much safer driver because I’m so conscious of what’s going on around me. I also believe that there are far too many people on the road who are blasé about driving and as a result, put themselves and others in danger.

    Something that Mum said to me many years ago that has stuck with me is “we are all potentially one mistake/bad judgment away from being disabled – or worse”. This applies to many areas of our lives, but the context in which she was talking at the time was driving. She wasn’t saying this to be negative, it was to point out that when it comes to driving, you have to have your wits about you because anything can happen at any time.

    I took it to heart, obviously! 🙂

    Keep up the great work, Matt. I thoroughly enjoy your posts.

    ~ Kylie ~
    .-= Kylie Doak´s last blog ..How to Migrate (Export and Import) Posts and Comments Files From One WordPress Blog to Another =-.


  2. Avatar June 12th, 2010 at 10:07 am Matt Says:

    Thanks Kylie for the in depth comment. You really take in what you read and apply it to your own life. Thats great and we all get to understand the concept on someone else’s level. Two heads are better than one as there are so many ways to achieve the one outcome so thanks for your input.
    Anybody else want to share?
    Cheers,
    Matt


  3. Avatar June 13th, 2010 at 4:20 pm Linda G. Cox Says:

    Worry is an interesting emotion. My mom is a worrier, I’m not. It’s funny that I just don’t worry~ my mom feels that if she doesn’t worry about things she won’t prevent negative things from happening. I know that worrying causes the worrier to think everything through thoroughly to prevent. I know that is my fault! I often don’t think things through well enough – for that reason, I need to start to worry a little 🙂 You’re right Matt – it is always as it should be!


  4. Avatar June 13th, 2010 at 6:14 pm Toni King Says:

    Hi Matt,

    a very interesting post and one I’m sure a lot of people can relate to.
    I wouldn’t say I’m a big worrier, however my mum is. She’ll think of any number of possible scenarios that could happen in any given circumstance. Not because she’s a negative person, she just feels she has to cover all bases to worry about, then pray that they don’t happen 🙂

    I’ve always tried to steer her to a more positive light so as not to attract these scenarios in the first place…. she’s improved a little 🙂

    Thanks for sharing
    Toni

    Last blog post: http://tonisuggests.com/our-fellow-sea-beings/


  5. Avatar June 15th, 2010 at 3:50 am Darlene Davis Says:

    Matt,
    Just Trust says it all for me. When a situation looks “ifey,” I try to visualize the best outcome. Worrying feels counterproductive. It does not accomplish anything.

    That is not to say that your intuition should be ignored. There are many times when I steer shy of a situation or change a course of action because intuitively there are warning signs. And those warning signals are there for a reason.

    Trusting is the best outlook to employ in daily life!


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